Hatred and Indifference
I’ve been often been criticized as a person with less EQ, yeah, whatever that means. They say I’m inexpressive, I reply I’m indifferent – often a white lie. A very close friend of mine sarcastically reminds me “Yeah, yeah, you are indifferent”. I tell him indifference helps sometimes. Whatever.
I have had experiences with hatred and will tell about couple of extreme experiences. I’ve hated people for their vile remarks towards me, on face and at my back, their stupiduty, whimsical nature.
It as in my 7th grade and we had a new girl – tall and well-built, the bullying ones type – in our class. She had a habit of ‘bitching’ people. She did a lot to me. I could never find words to hit her back and would leave for home sometimes crying, mouthing her curses. I continued hating her and started ignoring. But 10 years later I met her on street and I was trying to ignore her but she came to me, smiled, we talked and she wished me luck. Surprised!
Thus happened in college too. A girl called ‘Swati’ (yeah, I’m not scared to say that!) got pissed on me for some reason I’m yet to discover. I learnt she passed a lot of vile remarks behind my back, proclaming me to be her biggest enemy. She successfully turned entire class against me(us). Few months down the line, I saw her copying notes from my file – hiding it from me while entire class soon learned to smile at me. I never bothered to know what went wrong or what she viled. But lessons were learnt.
Instead of treating people you don’t like with hatred and ugly remarks it is much wiser to treat them with indifference – they too will learn to smile. Sometimes it is fun to listen to people with whimsical nature about their stupidity – no matter how much you feel like banging your head, they entertain you, and you learn tolerance. Thinking about these incidences some years later makes you laugh.
The fear is indifference is a very convenient way of tacking emotions and can become a habit, a nature, a characteristic. Even today I hate some people, but now I know the trick.
To forgive is divine but to forget unwise.(someone said that). Tackle hate with indifference and see the difference 😉